16 December 2007 - Family Integrity #327 -- psychological abuse
Dear Friends,
Dangerous new legislation is being suggested in this article. As some of those quoted in the article say, psychological abuse is much more difficult to define. It will most certainly be used as a weapon between warring parents, for I already hear too many of the sad stories of warring parents using home education as a weapon one against the other. And if parents can use it against each other, so can the state. If this idea goes through, watch for some state agent to start lobbying for home education and/or Christian Biblical training to be classed as psychological abuse.
Regards,
Craig Smith
New rules could instantly bar parents from kids
New weapon in tug-of-love cases
Sunday Star Times | Sunday, 16 December 2007
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4326075a10.html
Warring parents are set to gain a new lever to bar their partner from access to the children. Ruth Laugesen and Emma Page report.
Parents could be instantly banned from any contact with their children for months at a time under new proposals to allow claims of psychological abuse to be treated in the same way as allegations of violence in family breakdowns.
And, in much the same way as the anti-smacking debate divided opinion, experts are warning the proposals could cause problems for the Family Court when it tries to decide the difference between psychological abuse and normal and necessary parental control.
Under current laws, violence allegations result in an immediate, temporary ban on the accused parent from having access to his or her children, or having only supervised access, until the allegations can be heard a process which can take months. The law change would mean a claim of psychological abuse would be treated the same way.
The proposal, in a Ministry of Justice discussion paper released last week, suggests widening the Care of Children Act to recognise psychological abuse as another form of violence.
About 10,500 applications for day-to-day care are made each year and at this time of year, family lawyers are also dealing with an influx of calls over Christmas Day access arrangements.
About 125,000 Kiwi families with dependent children are headed by a solo parent and one in six New Zealand children lives in a blended family with a step-parent.
South Auckland lawyer Paul Maskell, chair of the Law Society's family law section, said it often took three months for the truth of an allegation to be settled. And he said that although widening the definition of violence to include psychological abuse had some merits, it also carried the risk that it would be used as a lever by warring partners.
"It will make that task harder for judges to determine whether children are safe when you extend that definition. Physical violence is pretty easy to identify it is or it isn't. One wants to be able to ensure the right evidence is available for the court in the first place," he said.
The paper said psychological abuse could include "intimidation, harassment, controlling behaviour, threats of physical abuse and also includes causing or allowing a child to see or hear the physical, sexual or psychological abuse of a person with whom the child has a domestic relationship".
"The nature of parental control and responsibility for children may make it difficult in some situations to determine whether a parent is abusive or simply exercising necessary parental control," the discussion paper said.
Expanding the definition might lead to an increase in allegations and counter-allegations of violence and also to an increase in orders for supervised contact or orders of no contact between the violent party and the child. "The impact of such orders can be significant, severely limiting or preventing contact between a parent and a child," the paper said.
However, Auckland family lawyer Geoff Harrison said he believed the law change would make no difference.
He said judges already took into account a wide range of information relating to a child's welfare and the parent's attitude when they decided who would look after a child or have access. This included psychological abuse.
Craig Smith
National Director
Family Integrity
PO Box 9064
Palmerston North
New Zealand
Ph: (06) 357-4399
Fax: (06) 357-4389
Family.Integrity@xtra.co.nz
http://www.FamilyIntegrity.org.nz
http://familyintegrity.blogspot.com/
Our Home....Our Castle
if Section59 is repealed - or replaced...
YOU CAN KISS YOUR CHILDREN GOODBYE.
http://www.storesonline.com/members/846699/uploaded/Brochure_-_Kiss_Children_Goodbye_7.pdf
Monday, 17 December 2007
Friday, 14 December 2007
FI - 326
14 December 2007 - Family Integrity #326 -- Family First - Do you know just how close we are!!!
Dear All,
I know some of you already receive this, so please forgive me forwarding it again.
Craig Smith
Family.Integrity@xtra.co.nz
http://www.FamilyIntegrity.org.nz
http://familyintegrity.blogspot.com/
-----Original Message-----
From: admin@familyfirst.org.nz [mailto:admin@familyfirst.org.nz]
Sent: Friday, December 14, 2007 7:45 AM
To: Craig Smith
Subject: Family First - Do you know just how close we are!!!
To view the information below with graphics then click on this link direct to Family first website:
http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/index.cfm/SIGN_THE_PETITIONS
14 Dec 2007
Hi Craig,
1. DO YOU KNOW JUST HOW CLOSE WE ARE?
On March 1 2007, we helped launch the petitions to demand a Referendum on Child abuse and the criminalisation of good parents who use a smack for correction.
We need to gain 300,000 signatures by March 1 2008 on each of the following statements:
1. SHOULD A SMACK AS PART OF GOOD PARENTAL CORRECTION BE A CRIMINAL OFFENCE IN NEW ZEALAND; and
2. SHOULD THE GOVERNMENT GIVE URGENT PRIORITY TO UNDERSTANDING AND ADDRESSING THE WIDER CAUSES OF FAMILY BREAKDOWN, FAMILY VIOLENCE AND CHILD ABUSE IN NEW ZEALAND?
As at this week, we have approximately 239,000 signatures on each petition. Just about there!!
So, in combination with other groups, we've launched the SUMMER CHALLENGE!
If everyone who received this email alert collected just 20 signatures on each petition, we would reach our target. It's that simple.
I asked my local cafe owner to put the petition forms (CLICK HERE http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/documents/CirPetition.pdf) with an explanation sheet (CLICK HERE http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Make%20Them%20Listen.pdf) on the counter, and he has collected over 100 signatures just like that! Do you know a shop owner or retailer who can simply leave the explanation sheet and petition forms on the counter?
Family First NZ is joining with Unity for Liberty, Focus on the Family, Sensible Sentencing Trust, For the Sake of our Children Trust and other groups in inviting all concerned New Zealanders across the country to 'take up arms' - that means pens, clipboards and petition forms!
How: By being available in your own communities for NZ'ers to sign the petition. Ring up a local shop and ask to run a table outside their business on a Saturday or for a few days over the new year. Perhaps a sports field - mid-week touch - flower shows - Expos - Christmas in the Park - stockcars - wherever there's a crowd (the possibilities are endless!).
1. Print off a pile of petition forms http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/documents/CirPetition.pdf
2. Print off this sheet http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Reality%20Hits_SST.pdf which shows how harmful the anti-smacking law is to good families
3. Print off this sheet http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Make%20Them%20Listen.pdf which explains more about the petitions
IMPORTANT: By achieving 300,000 signatures, this will make parental correction and child abuse an election issue . Every voter will have to express their opinion on these 2 issues when they enter the polling booth at next year's election. The Electoral Finance Bill won't be able to stop this one.
Help us hold the politicians accountable on how they have failed to deal with the real causes of child abuse while targeting good families with shoddy law making.
Make Child Abuse and the Role of Parents an Election Issue in 2008!
THANKS FOR YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT.
http://www.familyfirst.org.nz | About us | Media Centre | Contact Us | Support Us |
Dear All,
I know some of you already receive this, so please forgive me forwarding it again.
Craig Smith
Family.Integrity@xtra.co.nz
http://www.FamilyIntegrity.org.nz
http://familyintegrity.blogspot.com/
-----Original Message-----
From: admin@familyfirst.org.nz [mailto:admin@familyfirst.org.nz]
Sent: Friday, December 14, 2007 7:45 AM
To: Craig Smith
Subject: Family First - Do you know just how close we are!!!
To view the information below with graphics then click on this link direct to Family first website:
http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/index.cfm/SIGN_THE_PETITIONS
14 Dec 2007
Hi Craig,
1. DO YOU KNOW JUST HOW CLOSE WE ARE?
On March 1 2007, we helped launch the petitions to demand a Referendum on Child abuse and the criminalisation of good parents who use a smack for correction.
We need to gain 300,000 signatures by March 1 2008 on each of the following statements:
1. SHOULD A SMACK AS PART OF GOOD PARENTAL CORRECTION BE A CRIMINAL OFFENCE IN NEW ZEALAND; and
2. SHOULD THE GOVERNMENT GIVE URGENT PRIORITY TO UNDERSTANDING AND ADDRESSING THE WIDER CAUSES OF FAMILY BREAKDOWN, FAMILY VIOLENCE AND CHILD ABUSE IN NEW ZEALAND?
As at this week, we have approximately 239,000 signatures on each petition. Just about there!!
So, in combination with other groups, we've launched the SUMMER CHALLENGE!
If everyone who received this email alert collected just 20 signatures on each petition, we would reach our target. It's that simple.
I asked my local cafe owner to put the petition forms (CLICK HERE http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/documents/CirPetition.pdf) with an explanation sheet (CLICK HERE http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Make%20Them%20Listen.pdf) on the counter, and he has collected over 100 signatures just like that! Do you know a shop owner or retailer who can simply leave the explanation sheet and petition forms on the counter?
Family First NZ is joining with Unity for Liberty, Focus on the Family, Sensible Sentencing Trust, For the Sake of our Children Trust and other groups in inviting all concerned New Zealanders across the country to 'take up arms' - that means pens, clipboards and petition forms!
How: By being available in your own communities for NZ'ers to sign the petition. Ring up a local shop and ask to run a table outside their business on a Saturday or for a few days over the new year. Perhaps a sports field - mid-week touch - flower shows - Expos - Christmas in the Park - stockcars - wherever there's a crowd (the possibilities are endless!).
1. Print off a pile of petition forms http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/documents/CirPetition.pdf
2. Print off this sheet http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Reality%20Hits_SST.pdf which shows how harmful the anti-smacking law is to good families
3. Print off this sheet http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/files/LATEST%20-%20Make%20Them%20Listen.pdf which explains more about the petitions
IMPORTANT: By achieving 300,000 signatures, this will make parental correction and child abuse an election issue . Every voter will have to express their opinion on these 2 issues when they enter the polling booth at next year's election. The Electoral Finance Bill won't be able to stop this one.
Help us hold the politicians accountable on how they have failed to deal with the real causes of child abuse while targeting good families with shoddy law making.
Make Child Abuse and the Role of Parents an Election Issue in 2008!
THANKS FOR YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT.
http://www.familyfirst.org.nz | About us | Media Centre | Contact Us | Support Us |
Thursday, 13 December 2007
Media
MEDIA RELEASE
13 December 2007
Smacking Study Proves Resources Need to be Targeted at At-Risk Groups
Family First says that a study published in the latest NZ Medical Journal backs up the need for targeted support and resourcing of at-risk parents – especially young parents.
“The Christchurch Health and Development study, albeit a low survey group (n=155) and targeting only parents aged 25 years, shows that 77% of these parents are not abusing their children when using appropriate and reasonable physical punishment,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First NZ. “This % is consistent with the total number of parents in NZ who are using physical punishment in a reasonable and effective way.”
“However, as the study highlights, the targeted group is an at-risk group in terms of child abuse. This is backed up by recent UNICEF and CYF reports. The UNICEF report released earlier this year said “the likelihood of a child being injured or killed is associated with poverty, single-parenthood, low maternal education, low maternal age at birth, poor housing, weak family ties, and parental drug or alcohol abuse.”
“This study reinforces the need for better support and resources being targeted at this young parent group – 12% of who admitted “having severely physically assaulted a child in the past year”. We must better resource and support frontline organisations and other local community organisations working with at-risk families, provide midwives and appropriate postnatal care (especially to first-time and teen mothers), and strengthen struggling families with appropriate counseling and relationship support – without criminalising the huge majority of parents who are not abusing their children but are simply using what works.”
“This study does not establish that smacking should be banned,” says Mr McCoskrie. ““The smacking ban is unwarranted, is confusing to parents, is targeting good and non-abusive parents with malicious and unwarranted complaints, has distracted police and CYF resources from at-risk families, and has done nothing to stem the flow of our unacceptable child abuse rates.”
“The law change has failed to target drug and alcohol fuelled abuse or domestic violence, family breakdown or dysfunction, teenage parenting needs, and poverty and stress issues.”
“This study highlights that exact point. As they say, It’s not the drinking – it’s the way we’re drinking. It’s not the smacking – it’s the way some parents smack.”
ENDS
For More Information and Media Interviews, contact Family First:
Bob McCoskrie JP - National Director
Mob. 027 55 555 42
13 December 2007
Smacking Study Proves Resources Need to be Targeted at At-Risk Groups
Family First says that a study published in the latest NZ Medical Journal backs up the need for targeted support and resourcing of at-risk parents – especially young parents.
“The Christchurch Health and Development study, albeit a low survey group (n=155) and targeting only parents aged 25 years, shows that 77% of these parents are not abusing their children when using appropriate and reasonable physical punishment,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First NZ. “This % is consistent with the total number of parents in NZ who are using physical punishment in a reasonable and effective way.”
“However, as the study highlights, the targeted group is an at-risk group in terms of child abuse. This is backed up by recent UNICEF and CYF reports. The UNICEF report released earlier this year said “the likelihood of a child being injured or killed is associated with poverty, single-parenthood, low maternal education, low maternal age at birth, poor housing, weak family ties, and parental drug or alcohol abuse.”
“This study reinforces the need for better support and resources being targeted at this young parent group – 12% of who admitted “having severely physically assaulted a child in the past year”. We must better resource and support frontline organisations and other local community organisations working with at-risk families, provide midwives and appropriate postnatal care (especially to first-time and teen mothers), and strengthen struggling families with appropriate counseling and relationship support – without criminalising the huge majority of parents who are not abusing their children but are simply using what works.”
“This study does not establish that smacking should be banned,” says Mr McCoskrie. ““The smacking ban is unwarranted, is confusing to parents, is targeting good and non-abusive parents with malicious and unwarranted complaints, has distracted police and CYF resources from at-risk families, and has done nothing to stem the flow of our unacceptable child abuse rates.”
“The law change has failed to target drug and alcohol fuelled abuse or domestic violence, family breakdown or dysfunction, teenage parenting needs, and poverty and stress issues.”
“This study highlights that exact point. As they say, It’s not the drinking – it’s the way we’re drinking. It’s not the smacking – it’s the way some parents smack.”
ENDS
For More Information and Media Interviews, contact Family First:
Bob McCoskrie JP - National Director
Mob. 027 55 555 42
blog - nzconservative
There is a great blog over at nzconservative
http://nzconservative.blogspot.com/2007/12/efb-bit-of-wake-up-call-for-nz.html
EFB a bit of a wake up call for NZ http://www.solopassion.com/node/3723
I'm not going to comment on the details on the EFB as a number of other bloggers (and the media) are doing a brilliant job already. The only thing I want to say is that after the anti-smacking bill, this one has to be a real wake up call for New Zealanders. The anti-smacking bill was not just a blip. What we are seeing is a democratic consolidation of power by the ruling party.
While Lindsay Perigo http://www.solopassion.com/node/3723 is talking coup (as pointed out by AJ Chesswas http://matthew5-9.blogspot.com/2007/12/perigo-calls-for-coup.html) - I don't think we are at that stage - yet. Everyone needs to stay calm and see if the bill passes. If you pray, pray for NZ. If you never have prayed before in your life, now would be a good time to start. I don't think it will be enough, but it's worth a try.
No, the real test is, will NZ vote the current lot back into power next year? And if NZ doesn't, will the new lot repeal not only the EFB, but also the anti-smacking law? And my personal bugbear, is the Care of Children Act which redefines parents into caregivers - people with only responsibility towards their children, but no rights. That's the bill that made me sit up and take notice of politics in this country when I came back with my family from Australia four years ago.
Time to hang on for the ride.
http://nzconservative.blogspot.com/2007/12/efb-bit-of-wake-up-call-for-nz.html
EFB a bit of a wake up call for NZ http://www.solopassion.com/node/3723
I'm not going to comment on the details on the EFB as a number of other bloggers (and the media) are doing a brilliant job already. The only thing I want to say is that after the anti-smacking bill, this one has to be a real wake up call for New Zealanders. The anti-smacking bill was not just a blip. What we are seeing is a democratic consolidation of power by the ruling party.
While Lindsay Perigo http://www.solopassion.com/node/3723 is talking coup (as pointed out by AJ Chesswas http://matthew5-9.blogspot.com/2007/12/perigo-calls-for-coup.html) - I don't think we are at that stage - yet. Everyone needs to stay calm and see if the bill passes. If you pray, pray for NZ. If you never have prayed before in your life, now would be a good time to start. I don't think it will be enough, but it's worth a try.
No, the real test is, will NZ vote the current lot back into power next year? And if NZ doesn't, will the new lot repeal not only the EFB, but also the anti-smacking law? And my personal bugbear, is the Care of Children Act which redefines parents into caregivers - people with only responsibility towards their children, but no rights. That's the bill that made me sit up and take notice of politics in this country when I came back with my family from Australia four years ago.
Time to hang on for the ride.
Media
http://www.citizenlink.org/CLNews/A000006098.cfm?eafref=1
American College of Pediatricians Supports Spanking
Family News in Focus
Doctors say reasoning and explanation don't work with young children.
Parents who feel their unruly, young children need an old-fashioned spanking now and then have the support of the American College of Pediatricians (ACP). Research from the group finds that spanking “can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan.”
Dr. Den Trumbull, the report's principal author, said: “Spanking is, at times, necessary with young children, because reasoning and explanation are insufficient in persuading them to have good behavior.
“Spanking should be used proactively. The child should be forewarned; it should always be administered in private, and followed by a loving embrace of the child with an explanation for the reason of the spanking.”
The ACP statement puts it in direct opposition to the American Medical Association, which condemns spanking and links it to youth violence.
Marjorie Lindner-Gunnoe, a psychology professor at Calvin College, said the ACP position is refreshing.
“It’s nice to see a little bit more balanced approach," she said. "We’re getting some multiple views. In the past, the views have been quite one-sided.”
FOR MORE INFORMATION
The American College of Pediatricians offers more information online, including guidelines that detail when spanking is appropriate.
(NOTE: Referral to Web sites not produced by Focus on the Family is for informational purposes only and does not necessarily constitute an endorsement of the sites' content.)
American College of Pediatricians Supports Spanking
Family News in Focus
Doctors say reasoning and explanation don't work with young children.
Parents who feel their unruly, young children need an old-fashioned spanking now and then have the support of the American College of Pediatricians (ACP). Research from the group finds that spanking “can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan.”
Dr. Den Trumbull, the report's principal author, said: “Spanking is, at times, necessary with young children, because reasoning and explanation are insufficient in persuading them to have good behavior.
“Spanking should be used proactively. The child should be forewarned; it should always be administered in private, and followed by a loving embrace of the child with an explanation for the reason of the spanking.”
The ACP statement puts it in direct opposition to the American Medical Association, which condemns spanking and links it to youth violence.
Marjorie Lindner-Gunnoe, a psychology professor at Calvin College, said the ACP position is refreshing.
“It’s nice to see a little bit more balanced approach," she said. "We’re getting some multiple views. In the past, the views have been quite one-sided.”
FOR MORE INFORMATION
The American College of Pediatricians offers more information online, including guidelines that detail when spanking is appropriate.
(NOTE: Referral to Web sites not produced by Focus on the Family is for informational purposes only and does not necessarily constitute an endorsement of the sites' content.)
Wednesday, 12 December 2007
Media
12 December 2007 - Family Integrity #325 -- U4L; Weekend events
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Wednesday, December 12, 2007 8:36 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; Weekend events
Hi All,
The new signature count is 239,000 signatures. The website thermometer will be updated tomorrow.
Urgent,
Below is an itinerary of Larry Baldock's movements across the country this week, bit late with this notice however if you can attend any of these meetings it will be fruitful. There was a meeting in Christchurch and it did link more good folk together, many hands make light work.
Dec 12th Petition training and FNZ Meeting The Silverstream Reformed Church 8 Blue Mts Rd, Silverstream at 7-45pm
Dec 13th Petition training and FNZ Meeting Masterton Community Church lounge at 7pm-9pm
Dec 14th Training session for Petition collectors Palmerston North. Contact Yvonne Walton for Details 063576646
Dec 15th Petition training and FNZ Meeting Chapel Hill Church Hamilton contact Anton Roest 078554380
regards
Larry
Below is some events this weekend, ALL COORDINATORS WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR HELP
Wellington
Contact lowerhutt@unityforliberty.net.nz
Hawkes Bay
We're looking at going to the Dannevirke Christmas Parade next Saturday
Contact hawkesbay@unityforliberty.net.nz
Christchurch
There are several tables around town,
Contact chch@unityforliberty.net.nz
West Coast
hopefully another two tables in Greymouth on the 14th. These will all be outside supermarkets, so I'm hoping frazzled, stressed-out Christmas shoppers will take the time to sign.
Contact chch@unityforliberty.net.nz
Catlins
Contact catlins@unityforliberty.net.nz
There are several tables and activities around the Auckland area, we need to know who is interested to assist as to coordinate these events. Please contact your local coordinator
Auckland craig@unityforliberty.net.nz
North Shore northshore@unityforliberty.net.nz
Rodney rodney@unityforliberty.net.nz
Thanks,
Craig Hill
021 746 113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Wednesday, December 12, 2007 8:36 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; Weekend events
Hi All,
The new signature count is 239,000 signatures. The website thermometer will be updated tomorrow.
Urgent,
Below is an itinerary of Larry Baldock's movements across the country this week, bit late with this notice however if you can attend any of these meetings it will be fruitful. There was a meeting in Christchurch and it did link more good folk together, many hands make light work.
Dec 12th Petition training and FNZ Meeting The Silverstream Reformed Church 8 Blue Mts Rd, Silverstream at 7-45pm
Dec 13th Petition training and FNZ Meeting Masterton Community Church lounge at 7pm-9pm
Dec 14th Training session for Petition collectors Palmerston North. Contact Yvonne Walton for Details 063576646
Dec 15th Petition training and FNZ Meeting Chapel Hill Church Hamilton contact Anton Roest 078554380
regards
Larry
Below is some events this weekend, ALL COORDINATORS WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR HELP
Wellington
Contact lowerhutt@unityforliberty.net.nz
Hawkes Bay
We're looking at going to the Dannevirke Christmas Parade next Saturday
Contact hawkesbay@unityforliberty.net.nz
Christchurch
There are several tables around town,
Contact chch@unityforliberty.net.nz
West Coast
hopefully another two tables in Greymouth on the 14th. These will all be outside supermarkets, so I'm hoping frazzled, stressed-out Christmas shoppers will take the time to sign.
Contact chch@unityforliberty.net.nz
Catlins
Contact catlins@unityforliberty.net.nz
There are several tables and activities around the Auckland area, we need to know who is interested to assist as to coordinate these events. Please contact your local coordinator
Auckland craig@unityforliberty.net.nz
North Shore northshore@unityforliberty.net.nz
Rodney rodney@unityforliberty.net.nz
Thanks,
Craig Hill
021 746 113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Media
http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/1/story.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10480677
CYFS too quick to take kids, says study
5:00AM Thursday December 06, 2007
By Simon Collins
Former CYFS chief social worker Mike Doolan.
The Government's top social workers say a "culture of blame" over child abuse is driving social workers into taking children from their families to avoid any risk of being blamed if things go wrong.
Child, Youth and Family Services (CYFS) chief social worker, Dr Marie Connolly, and her predecessor Mike Doolan say "sensationalist" media coverage of high-profile child deaths is making social workers less willing to trust the families of the children referred to them.
The number of children and young people in CYFS care has risen by half this decade, from 3533 in 1999-2000 to 5191 at the end of last year, despite an actual decline in child deaths from 1.07 a year for every 100,000 children in the 1990s to 0.79 a year in the first five years of this decade.
In a new book on child homicide, Dr Connolly and Mr Doolan call for a move away from the "culture of blame" to what they call a "public health model of welfare" which targets the whole range of factors that lead people to harm children.
In a foreword, the director of the Australian Centre for Child Protection, Dorothy Scott, calls for specific moves to:
* Cut problem drinking by raising alcohol prices, restricting advertising and tightening parents' control of their children's drinking.
* Make sure health services reach all new mothers and catch post-natal depression.
* Work proactively with vulnerable men in custody disputes.
A detailed study of nine cases where CYFS was involved before children were killed found that three of the cases followed Family Court custody hearings.
In one case, a father killed his child just hours after the court ordered him to transfer custody to the mother.
In another case, a mother agreed to transfer custody to the father, but the father "reported significant management difficulties with the child" and killed her two weeks later.
Although all nine case studies involved families where the parents had split, the broader analysis of all 91 children killed in New Zealand between 1991 and 2000 found that more than half the children died at the hands of their biological parents - 30 per cent fathers and 24 per cent mothers.
Only 18 per cent were killed by step-parents and the other 28 per cent were killed by other relatives, acquaintances or strangers.
Almost two-thirds of the children killed were preschoolers and a quarter were under 1 - a fact the book attributes to "their physical vulnerability, their total dependence on adults, and their capacity to cry incessantly and drive an exhausted/enraged parent to act in ways that they normally would not".
Yet despite these cases, the book strongly endorses the current law that requires social workers to keep children within the extended family whenever possible. But in the book, Dr Connolly and Mr Doolan say that every high-profile child death review has led to tightening managerial controls over social workers which have made them less willing to risk leaving children with their families.
NZ CHILD HOMICIDES
1991-2000
WHO DIED
Boys 53 per cent
Girls 46 per cent
Unknown (unborn child) 1 per cent
0-1 year old 26 per cent
1-4 years old 37 per cent
5-10 years old 19 per cent
11-14 years old 18 per cent
Maori 52 per cent
Pakeha 39 per cent
Asian 4 per cent
Samoan 3 per cent
Unknown 2 per cent
HOW THEY DIED
Battered 47 per cent
Stabbed/knifed 20 per cent
Strangled/suffocated 19 per cent
Poisoned 5 per cent
Drowned 3 per cent
Shot 2 per cent
Neglected 2 per cent
Unknown 1 per cent
WHO KILLED THEM
Men 66 per cent
Women 34 per cent
Biological fathers 30 per cent
Biological mothers 24 per cent
De facto step-parents 18 per cent
Other relatives 9 per cent
Neighbours/acquaintances 6 per cent
Non-family caregivers 2 per cent
Boarders 1 per cent
Strangers 6 per cent
Unknown 4 per cent
Source: Connolly & Doolan, Lives Cut Short.
* Lives Cut Short, by Marie Connolly and Mike Doolan, Dunmore Publishing for the Children's Commissioner, $24.95.
CYFS too quick to take kids, says study
5:00AM Thursday December 06, 2007
By Simon Collins
Former CYFS chief social worker Mike Doolan.
The Government's top social workers say a "culture of blame" over child abuse is driving social workers into taking children from their families to avoid any risk of being blamed if things go wrong.
Child, Youth and Family Services (CYFS) chief social worker, Dr Marie Connolly, and her predecessor Mike Doolan say "sensationalist" media coverage of high-profile child deaths is making social workers less willing to trust the families of the children referred to them.
The number of children and young people in CYFS care has risen by half this decade, from 3533 in 1999-2000 to 5191 at the end of last year, despite an actual decline in child deaths from 1.07 a year for every 100,000 children in the 1990s to 0.79 a year in the first five years of this decade.
In a new book on child homicide, Dr Connolly and Mr Doolan call for a move away from the "culture of blame" to what they call a "public health model of welfare" which targets the whole range of factors that lead people to harm children.
In a foreword, the director of the Australian Centre for Child Protection, Dorothy Scott, calls for specific moves to:
* Cut problem drinking by raising alcohol prices, restricting advertising and tightening parents' control of their children's drinking.
* Make sure health services reach all new mothers and catch post-natal depression.
* Work proactively with vulnerable men in custody disputes.
A detailed study of nine cases where CYFS was involved before children were killed found that three of the cases followed Family Court custody hearings.
In one case, a father killed his child just hours after the court ordered him to transfer custody to the mother.
In another case, a mother agreed to transfer custody to the father, but the father "reported significant management difficulties with the child" and killed her two weeks later.
Although all nine case studies involved families where the parents had split, the broader analysis of all 91 children killed in New Zealand between 1991 and 2000 found that more than half the children died at the hands of their biological parents - 30 per cent fathers and 24 per cent mothers.
Only 18 per cent were killed by step-parents and the other 28 per cent were killed by other relatives, acquaintances or strangers.
Almost two-thirds of the children killed were preschoolers and a quarter were under 1 - a fact the book attributes to "their physical vulnerability, their total dependence on adults, and their capacity to cry incessantly and drive an exhausted/enraged parent to act in ways that they normally would not".
Yet despite these cases, the book strongly endorses the current law that requires social workers to keep children within the extended family whenever possible. But in the book, Dr Connolly and Mr Doolan say that every high-profile child death review has led to tightening managerial controls over social workers which have made them less willing to risk leaving children with their families.
NZ CHILD HOMICIDES
1991-2000
WHO DIED
Boys 53 per cent
Girls 46 per cent
Unknown (unborn child) 1 per cent
0-1 year old 26 per cent
1-4 years old 37 per cent
5-10 years old 19 per cent
11-14 years old 18 per cent
Maori 52 per cent
Pakeha 39 per cent
Asian 4 per cent
Samoan 3 per cent
Unknown 2 per cent
HOW THEY DIED
Battered 47 per cent
Stabbed/knifed 20 per cent
Strangled/suffocated 19 per cent
Poisoned 5 per cent
Drowned 3 per cent
Shot 2 per cent
Neglected 2 per cent
Unknown 1 per cent
WHO KILLED THEM
Men 66 per cent
Women 34 per cent
Biological fathers 30 per cent
Biological mothers 24 per cent
De facto step-parents 18 per cent
Other relatives 9 per cent
Neighbours/acquaintances 6 per cent
Non-family caregivers 2 per cent
Boarders 1 per cent
Strangers 6 per cent
Unknown 4 per cent
Source: Connolly & Doolan, Lives Cut Short.
* Lives Cut Short, by Marie Connolly and Mike Doolan, Dunmore Publishing for the Children's Commissioner, $24.95.
Family First Comment : This is an own goal for CYF and the Children's Commissioner who are marketing this book. It backs up what we have been saying - that we need an independent CYF Complaints Authority because CYF have been too quick to separate families rather than strengthen them. It also highlights that at-risk families should be resourced and supported - not dealt the heavy hand of the law through ineffective anti-smacking laws. Yes - let's target drug and alcohol abuse, support of young and solo mums, and proactive action where there is domestic violence and custody disputes. Target the real causes of child abuse and leave good parents alone!http://www.familyfirst.org.nz/index.cfm/media_centre/recent_news/news/cyfs_too_quick_to_take_kids__says_study_2.html
Coming Events
Hi everyone,
Just a quick update for the team in Christchurch. (Auckland & Otago people, I'm forwarding this on to you also to keep you in the loop :)
We had a motivating meeting with Larry and Barbara Baldock on Monday night where we discussed plans for serving our community by gathering signatures for the referendum in Christchurch.
We were reminded that there are thousands of people out there who want to sign, it's just up to us to go out there and put the petition in front of them so they can sign it.
We're at 236,100 signatures currently (See the "signature thermometer" on the Unity for Liberty website for the most recent count).
This Saturday - come on guys, lets hit Christchurch with at least three tables. Lets go from about 9:30am til 2:30pm, with people most welcome to stay later if they like, but the best time is around the lunch-hour, when the city really gets bustling. I've got 3 tables, plenty of signs, plenty of petition boards and pens. We just need you guys now, so get back to me asap, as I need to book a couple of spots with the City Council.
Let's get Saturday out of the way, and then we can plan for getting tables at the big events coming up in January and February.
Come on Canterbury, Let's blow Auckland out of the water with our signature count for this Saturday! Auckland guys, the pressure is on!!!
Great to meet those that were at the meeting, thanks so much for coming along, keen to get involved!
Remember, "All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke."
Kind Regards,
Andy Moore
www.equipbiz.co.nz
phone: 021 1140 751 or 357 4599
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
God Defend New Zealand.
Just a quick update for the team in Christchurch. (Auckland & Otago people, I'm forwarding this on to you also to keep you in the loop :)
We had a motivating meeting with Larry and Barbara Baldock on Monday night where we discussed plans for serving our community by gathering signatures for the referendum in Christchurch.
We were reminded that there are thousands of people out there who want to sign, it's just up to us to go out there and put the petition in front of them so they can sign it.
We're at 236,100 signatures currently (See the "signature thermometer" on the Unity for Liberty website for the most recent count).
This Saturday - come on guys, lets hit Christchurch with at least three tables. Lets go from about 9:30am til 2:30pm, with people most welcome to stay later if they like, but the best time is around the lunch-hour, when the city really gets bustling. I've got 3 tables, plenty of signs, plenty of petition boards and pens. We just need you guys now, so get back to me asap, as I need to book a couple of spots with the City Council.
Let's get Saturday out of the way, and then we can plan for getting tables at the big events coming up in January and February.
Come on Canterbury, Let's blow Auckland out of the water with our signature count for this Saturday! Auckland guys, the pressure is on!!!
Great to meet those that were at the meeting, thanks so much for coming along, keen to get involved!
Remember, "All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" - Edmund Burke."
Kind Regards,
Andy Moore
www.equipbiz.co.nz
phone: 021 1140 751 or 357 4599
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
God Defend New Zealand.
FI - 324
12 December 2007 Family Integrity #324 -- U4L; Quick update
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2007 8:38 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; Quick update
Hi All,
A quick update, two more emails this week, one will be upcoming events and the second will be our click it, sign it, send it (nicknamed "Pass on the lady in the Greens Tent".)
Let's take our hats off to Jono from the West Coast, he emailed this week informing us of his table last Saturday. He came home with 201 signatures. Well done.
Here are the totals:
West Coast 201
Hawkes Bay 120
Porirua 100
Wellington 39
Manurewa 80
Auckland includes
Total 2190
Cheers,
Craig Hill
021 746 113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Tuesday, December 11, 2007 8:38 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; Quick update
Hi All,
A quick update, two more emails this week, one will be upcoming events and the second will be our click it, sign it, send it (nicknamed "Pass on the lady in the Greens Tent".)
Let's take our hats off to Jono from the West Coast, he emailed this week informing us of his table last Saturday. He came home with 201 signatures. Well done.
Here are the totals:
West Coast 201
Hawkes Bay 120
Porirua 100
Wellington 39
Manurewa 80
Auckland includes
Papatoetoe Parade
Mangere Parade
Pukekohe Parade
Papakura Parade
Te Kauwhata A&P
Christmas in the Park 1650
Total 2190
Cheers,
Craig Hill
021 746 113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Tuesday, 11 December 2007
Media
Look what the global warming myth leads to:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4318992a12.html
Should Aussie parents be taxed for extra kids?
AAP | Tuesday, 11 December 2007
Couples who have more than two children should be charged a lifelong tax to offset their extra offspring's carbon dioxide emissions, a medical expert says.
A new report published in an Australian medical journal has called for parents to be charged $5,000 ($NZ5700) a head for every child after their second, and an annual tax of up to $800 every year thereafter.
And couples who get sterilised would be eligible for carbon credits under the controversial proposal.
Perth specialist Professor Barry Walters is heavily critical of the $4,000 baby bonus, saying that paying new parents extra for every baby fuels more children, more emissions and "greenhouse-unfriendly behaviour".
Instead, it should be replaced with a "baby levy" in the form of a carbon tax in line with the "polluter pays" principle, he wrote in the latest Medical Journal of Australia.
"Every family choosing to have more than a defined number of children should be charged a carbon tax that would fund the planting of enough trees to offset the carbon cost generated by a new human being," said Prof Walters, an obstetrician at King Edward Memorial Hospital in Perth.
Sustainable Population Australia suggested a maximum of two, he said.
By the same reasoning, contraceptives like diaphragms and condoms, as well as sterilisation procedures, should attract carbon credits, the specialist said.
"As doctors, I believe we need to think this way," he wrote in a letter to the journal.
"As Australians I believe we need to be less arrogant.
"As citizens of the world, I believe we deserve no more population concessions than those in India or China."
Professor Garry Egger, director of the NSW Centre for Health Promotion and Research, agreed with the call, saying former treasurer Peter Costello's request for three children per family - "one for mum, one for dad and one for the country" - was too single-minded.
"Population remains crucial to all environmental considerations," wrote Prof Eggers, a leading advocate of the personal carbon trading debate.
"The debate (around population control) needs to be reopened as part of a second ecological revolution."
Family groups have rejected the calls, saying larger families use less energy than smaller ones and therefore should not be penalised.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4318992a12.html
Should Aussie parents be taxed for extra kids?
AAP | Tuesday, 11 December 2007
Couples who have more than two children should be charged a lifelong tax to offset their extra offspring's carbon dioxide emissions, a medical expert says.
A new report published in an Australian medical journal has called for parents to be charged $5,000 ($NZ5700) a head for every child after their second, and an annual tax of up to $800 every year thereafter.
And couples who get sterilised would be eligible for carbon credits under the controversial proposal.
Perth specialist Professor Barry Walters is heavily critical of the $4,000 baby bonus, saying that paying new parents extra for every baby fuels more children, more emissions and "greenhouse-unfriendly behaviour".
Instead, it should be replaced with a "baby levy" in the form of a carbon tax in line with the "polluter pays" principle, he wrote in the latest Medical Journal of Australia.
"Every family choosing to have more than a defined number of children should be charged a carbon tax that would fund the planting of enough trees to offset the carbon cost generated by a new human being," said Prof Walters, an obstetrician at King Edward Memorial Hospital in Perth.
Sustainable Population Australia suggested a maximum of two, he said.
By the same reasoning, contraceptives like diaphragms and condoms, as well as sterilisation procedures, should attract carbon credits, the specialist said.
"As doctors, I believe we need to think this way," he wrote in a letter to the journal.
"As Australians I believe we need to be less arrogant.
"As citizens of the world, I believe we deserve no more population concessions than those in India or China."
Professor Garry Egger, director of the NSW Centre for Health Promotion and Research, agreed with the call, saying former treasurer Peter Costello's request for three children per family - "one for mum, one for dad and one for the country" - was too single-minded.
"Population remains crucial to all environmental considerations," wrote Prof Eggers, a leading advocate of the personal carbon trading debate.
"The debate (around population control) needs to be reopened as part of a second ecological revolution."
Family groups have rejected the calls, saying larger families use less energy than smaller ones and therefore should not be penalised.
Monday, 10 December 2007
Media
This is adding to the problems we have with dysfunctional families in New Zealand.
Fathers not carrying out their responsibilities -- hundreds of them.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4317969a10.html
Wealthy dads not paying for kids
By BEN FAWKES - The Dominion Post | Monday, 10 December 2007
Hundreds of "delinquent dads" earning six-figure salaries are shirking their child support obligations, refusing to stump up cash to provide for their children.
Information obtained by The Dominion Post under the Official Information Act shows there are 326 parents earning more than $100,000 who are behind in their child support payments.
Meanwhile, thousands more on lower incomes are in arrears, with the Inland Revenue Department chasing almost $1.2 billion in unpaid child support.
The department refused to disclose the salaries of the top10 highest-earning defaulters, citing the secrecy provision of the Tax Administration Act, but it said that income liable for child support assessment was generally capped at $104,312.
There are currently 1248 parents assessed at or beyond this upper limit, meaning a quarter of those high earners are electing not to pay.
Revenue Minister Peter Dunne said he was appalled by the amount of child support debt outstanding, particularly from those on high incomes.
"I can't believe people could be so callous or indifferent towards their children," he said.
"[It is] money not going to dependent children. I don't think you can offer any excuse for people on high incomes not meeting their responsibilities."
He said new tax legislation due to be passed in Parliament this week would give government agencies greater data matching powers, to track people with child support debt who left the country.
He said the department was also looking at Australian procedures for ensuring high-earners paid child support, to see whether similar policies could be applied in New Zealand.
National Party welfare spokeswoman Judith Collins said it was time for the Government to get tough on errant fathers. The department should pursue child support defaulters more aggressively by seizing their assets, such as boats, houses and cars, in lieu of payment, she said.
The defaulters' former partners would, in many cases, be able to provide the department with information about any assets they held.
Blenheim woman Katrina Ferris said she had not received any financial support for her 12-year-old son, Duncan, from her former boyfriend since October 2006.
She believes he is in Australia, possibly working in forestry or mining. "I expect he's in Australia on good money, I'm 99.9 per cent sure of that.
"Duncan has never even received a Christmas card."
Mrs Ferris said her former partner had declared himself a beneficiary for the past 11 years, meaning she only ever received a small monthly sum.
"At the most I was only ever getting $30 to $40 a month ... it does not even buy milk."
Fathers not carrying out their responsibilities -- hundreds of them.
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4317969a10.html
Wealthy dads not paying for kids
By BEN FAWKES - The Dominion Post | Monday, 10 December 2007
Hundreds of "delinquent dads" earning six-figure salaries are shirking their child support obligations, refusing to stump up cash to provide for their children.
Information obtained by The Dominion Post under the Official Information Act shows there are 326 parents earning more than $100,000 who are behind in their child support payments.
Meanwhile, thousands more on lower incomes are in arrears, with the Inland Revenue Department chasing almost $1.2 billion in unpaid child support.
The department refused to disclose the salaries of the top10 highest-earning defaulters, citing the secrecy provision of the Tax Administration Act, but it said that income liable for child support assessment was generally capped at $104,312.
There are currently 1248 parents assessed at or beyond this upper limit, meaning a quarter of those high earners are electing not to pay.
Revenue Minister Peter Dunne said he was appalled by the amount of child support debt outstanding, particularly from those on high incomes.
"I can't believe people could be so callous or indifferent towards their children," he said.
"[It is] money not going to dependent children. I don't think you can offer any excuse for people on high incomes not meeting their responsibilities."
He said new tax legislation due to be passed in Parliament this week would give government agencies greater data matching powers, to track people with child support debt who left the country.
He said the department was also looking at Australian procedures for ensuring high-earners paid child support, to see whether similar policies could be applied in New Zealand.
National Party welfare spokeswoman Judith Collins said it was time for the Government to get tough on errant fathers. The department should pursue child support defaulters more aggressively by seizing their assets, such as boats, houses and cars, in lieu of payment, she said.
The defaulters' former partners would, in many cases, be able to provide the department with information about any assets they held.
Blenheim woman Katrina Ferris said she had not received any financial support for her 12-year-old son, Duncan, from her former boyfriend since October 2006.
She believes he is in Australia, possibly working in forestry or mining. "I expect he's in Australia on good money, I'm 99.9 per cent sure of that.
"Duncan has never even received a Christmas card."
Mrs Ferris said her former partner had declared himself a beneficiary for the past 11 years, meaning she only ever received a small monthly sum.
"At the most I was only ever getting $30 to $40 a month ... it does not even buy milk."
Sunday, 9 December 2007
Media
http://www.scoop.co.nz/stories/PO0712/S00093.htm
Questionable smacking case before the court
Sunday, 9 December 2007, 2:45 pm
Press Release: The Family Party
http://www.thefamilyparty.org.nz
The Family Party is raising concerns over the arrest and prosecution of a single father of four, who has been charged with assaulting his 11-year-old son under the new anti-smacking legislation.
The Nelson Mail reports the man ‘hit’ his son on the bottom with a wooden spoon for disobedience. He is also alleged to have ‘clipped’ the boy around the face. The boy later called the police and the father was arrested, handcuffed and put before the courts. He is now barred from associating with his son until he next appears before the court. http://www.stuff.co.nz/4315830a11.html refers.
“Without knowing the full circumstances of this case it is difficult to comment on criminal liability, particularly with regards to the ‘clip around the face’ allegation. But for all we know, it could have been a clip around the ear, which many of us got at some stage growing up from a parent, school teacher or even the local constable. My concern is that we could have a decent father trying to raise four children on his own, who is now facing the full force of the justice system for administering discipline in his own home according to his Christian values,” says Mr Lewis.
Mr Lewis emphasised a cautious approach to the case without knowing the full circumstances but noted the fathers comment about only occasionally using the wooden spoon when his son's behaviour was particularly bad. Lewis also points out that the use of emotive words (in reporting) such as ‘hit’ don’t necessarily reflect the true circumstances of the case.
“There was quite possibly a better way to handle this situation without arresting a father of four and throwing him in the clanger! But that’s what repealing Section 59 was all about,” Mr Lewis added.
ends
Questionable smacking case before the court
Sunday, 9 December 2007, 2:45 pm
Press Release: The Family Party
http://www.thefamilyparty.org.nz
The Family Party is raising concerns over the arrest and prosecution of a single father of four, who has been charged with assaulting his 11-year-old son under the new anti-smacking legislation.
The Nelson Mail reports the man ‘hit’ his son on the bottom with a wooden spoon for disobedience. He is also alleged to have ‘clipped’ the boy around the face. The boy later called the police and the father was arrested, handcuffed and put before the courts. He is now barred from associating with his son until he next appears before the court. http://www.stuff.co.nz/4315830a11.html refers.
“Without knowing the full circumstances of this case it is difficult to comment on criminal liability, particularly with regards to the ‘clip around the face’ allegation. But for all we know, it could have been a clip around the ear, which many of us got at some stage growing up from a parent, school teacher or even the local constable. My concern is that we could have a decent father trying to raise four children on his own, who is now facing the full force of the justice system for administering discipline in his own home according to his Christian values,” says Mr Lewis.
Mr Lewis emphasised a cautious approach to the case without knowing the full circumstances but noted the fathers comment about only occasionally using the wooden spoon when his son's behaviour was particularly bad. Lewis also points out that the use of emotive words (in reporting) such as ‘hit’ don’t necessarily reflect the true circumstances of the case.
“There was quite possibly a better way to handle this situation without arresting a father of four and throwing him in the clanger! But that’s what repealing Section 59 was all about,” Mr Lewis added.
ends
Media
http://www.thehindu.com/2007/12/08/stories/2007120853521300.htm
French parents back smacking
Emilie Boyer King
Most French children are used to the odd spank from their parents, and many think there is nothing wrong with that, a new survey suggests. An Internet poll by the Paris-based Union of Families in Europe (UFE), an organisation which defends families’ rights in France, shows that 65 per cent of children in France think la fessee — French for a smack on the bottom — is a normal part of their upbringing, with more than half thinking they de serve it.
Spanking is certainly central in a French education if the survey is anything to go by. More than 95 per cent of the 2,000 grandparents, parents, and children polled said they had been spanked at some point in their lives.
A nationwide poll carried out nearly 10 years ago revealed that more than 85 per cent of French parents spanked their children compared with 87 per cent in the new survey. While spanking may still be popular in France, other forms of punishment, such as a slap on the cheek or a kick are rarely used and are considered dangerous by many parents, the survey showed.
— ©Guardian Newspapers Limited, 2007
French parents back smacking
Emilie Boyer King
Most French children are used to the odd spank from their parents, and many think there is nothing wrong with that, a new survey suggests. An Internet poll by the Paris-based Union of Families in Europe (UFE), an organisation which defends families’ rights in France, shows that 65 per cent of children in France think la fessee — French for a smack on the bottom — is a normal part of their upbringing, with more than half thinking they de serve it.
Spanking is certainly central in a French education if the survey is anything to go by. More than 95 per cent of the 2,000 grandparents, parents, and children polled said they had been spanked at some point in their lives.
A nationwide poll carried out nearly 10 years ago revealed that more than 85 per cent of French parents spanked their children compared with 87 per cent in the new survey. While spanking may still be popular in France, other forms of punishment, such as a slap on the cheek or a kick are rarely used and are considered dangerous by many parents, the survey showed.
— ©Guardian Newspapers Limited, 2007
Saturday, 8 December 2007
Blog - drlaura
This is a very interesting blog from the US. It backs up what we were saying here during the Section 59 debate.
http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/12/06/child-abuse-more-likely-in-shack-up-relationships/
Child Abuse More Likely in Shack-Up Relationships
December 6, 2007
When a woman wishes to diminish her own value (as well as that of the covenant of marriage) by cohabitating with a man who is not willing to make the vow of committing his life to her, it’s a shame. When a woman with children does so, it too often becomes a crime.
Thirty years ago, nearly 80% of America’s children lived with both their Mommy and Daddy, who were married. Now, only two-thirds of them do. Of all families with children, nearly 30% are now one-parent families, up from 17% in 1977. The net result is instability, neglect, and the likelihood that children will be in homes with adults who have no biological tie to them.
Children living in homes with unrelated adults are nearly fifty times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as are children living with their bio-parents. (Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, 2005). Children of single parents had a 77% greater risk of being harmed by physical abuse than children living with both parents (National Incidence Study, 1996). Children living in stepfamilies, or with single parents are at higher risk of physical or sexual assault than children living with their bio-parents (University of New Hampshire’s Crimes Against Children Research Center). Girls whose parents divorce are at significantly higher risk of sexual assault, regardless of which bio-parent they live with (Family Law, Washington and Lee University).
It is righteous to judge the lifestyles of people who have children, because the results of their choices can result in harm (psychological, physical or sexual), as well as death to innocent children. “Six year old Oscar Jimenez, Jr. was beaten to death in California, then buried under fertilizer and cement. Two year old Devon Shackleford drowned in an Arizona swimming pool. Jayden Cangro, also two, died after being thrown across a room in Utah. In each case, as in many others every year, the alleged or convicted perpetrator had been the boyfriend of the child’s mother. (Associated Press, November 18, 2007).
The recent “Baby Grace” case was no different. According to news reports, the mother’s boyfriend beat the child to death because the child didn’t address him politely.
I am firm in my beliefs and advice that young women, pregnant out-of-wedlock, need to consider adoption as in the best interest of the child, and that divorced parents should not marry again until the children are grown (and if they do, they shouldn’t marry someone with children or create more children, because they will be sidelining their own children)......
To read more go to:
http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/12/06/child-abuse-more-likely-in-shack-up-relationships/
http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/12/06/child-abuse-more-likely-in-shack-up-relationships/
Child Abuse More Likely in Shack-Up Relationships
December 6, 2007
When a woman wishes to diminish her own value (as well as that of the covenant of marriage) by cohabitating with a man who is not willing to make the vow of committing his life to her, it’s a shame. When a woman with children does so, it too often becomes a crime.
Thirty years ago, nearly 80% of America’s children lived with both their Mommy and Daddy, who were married. Now, only two-thirds of them do. Of all families with children, nearly 30% are now one-parent families, up from 17% in 1977. The net result is instability, neglect, and the likelihood that children will be in homes with adults who have no biological tie to them.
Children living in homes with unrelated adults are nearly fifty times as likely to die of inflicted injuries as are children living with their bio-parents. (Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, 2005). Children of single parents had a 77% greater risk of being harmed by physical abuse than children living with both parents (National Incidence Study, 1996). Children living in stepfamilies, or with single parents are at higher risk of physical or sexual assault than children living with their bio-parents (University of New Hampshire’s Crimes Against Children Research Center). Girls whose parents divorce are at significantly higher risk of sexual assault, regardless of which bio-parent they live with (Family Law, Washington and Lee University).
It is righteous to judge the lifestyles of people who have children, because the results of their choices can result in harm (psychological, physical or sexual), as well as death to innocent children. “Six year old Oscar Jimenez, Jr. was beaten to death in California, then buried under fertilizer and cement. Two year old Devon Shackleford drowned in an Arizona swimming pool. Jayden Cangro, also two, died after being thrown across a room in Utah. In each case, as in many others every year, the alleged or convicted perpetrator had been the boyfriend of the child’s mother. (Associated Press, November 18, 2007).
The recent “Baby Grace” case was no different. According to news reports, the mother’s boyfriend beat the child to death because the child didn’t address him politely.
I am firm in my beliefs and advice that young women, pregnant out-of-wedlock, need to consider adoption as in the best interest of the child, and that divorced parents should not marry again until the children are grown (and if they do, they shouldn’t marry someone with children or create more children, because they will be sidelining their own children)......
To read more go to:
http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/12/06/child-abuse-more-likely-in-shack-up-relationships/
Friday, 7 December 2007
Media
http://www.stuff.co.nz/4315830a11.html
Dad argues for right to hit son
By SALLY KIDSON - The Nelson Mail | Friday, 07 December 2007
SPARE THE ROD: Rowan Flynn of Nelson is prepared to go to jail to assert his right to smack his four children.
A Nelson father charged with assaulting his son, in one of the region's first prosecutions under a controversial new child discipline law, says he is prepared to go to jail for his right as a parent and a Christian to hit his child.
Rowan Flynn has been charged with two counts of assaulting his 11-year-old son under the new legislation, which came into effect in June and removed a parent's right to use "reasonable force" when discipling a child.
The 52-year-old denied the charges when he appeared in the Nelson District Court this week, and has chosen to have a judge and jury hear the case.
Mr Flynn, who has four children, told the Nelson Mail his son called the police two weeks ago after he hit the boy.
Mr Flynn disputes the police summary of facts. He estimated that he hit his son five times on the bottom with a wooden spoon after he was disobedient, and said it was a "tiny issue" that blew up.
While the police visited him at home to talk to him, they did not take any action at that stage, he said.
"But I made it quite clear to the cop that if it was needed again, I would smack."
Mr Flynn said that about a week later, he "clipped" his son around the face.
Several days later, he was at home cooking dinner when the police arrived and he was arrested.
Mr Flynn said he wanted to speak out about his case because he thought he would not have been charged under the old law.
"I believe very strongly in smacking as a form of discipline. I'm a Christian, and believe it's what I've been commanded to do.
"I'm not going to lay down and take it. I'm going to kick and scream to the very end."
He said he only occasionally used the wooden spoon, when his son's behaviour was particularly bad.
He believed that passages in the Bible gave him the right to use the spoon, or "rod".
"Parents must have the right to correct their children and give them a good whack if that's what they need.
"All this law is doing is making criminals out of good parents. I'm not afraid to say `I smack my kids'."
He believed that smacking was effective because it was an immediate form of discipline.
"We have to have it there, because the kids just know they can get away with anything if it isn't there as a punishment.
"I don't beat my kids. I don't thrash them.
"This new law is going to destroy families. It's already started."
Mr Flynn, who is separated from his wife, said his son had been living with him under an informal arrangement until he appeared in court on Tuesday.
Mr Flynn was granted bail but refused to sign the bail bond because of a condition that he not contact his son. He said he was handcuffed, searched and spent several hours in a holding cell before being released. He intends to appeal the bail condition, and is due back in court on January 18.
Nelson Bays police area commander Inspector Brian McGurk declined to comment on the prosecution, other than to say it had always been illegal for a parent to assault a child.
A 33-year-old Masterton man recently became the first parent convicted under the new legislation. Last month, he was sentenced to nine months' supervision and counselling for grabbing his son and smacking him three times.
Green MP Sue Bradford, who campaigned for the legislation, said the law had changed to put the rights of a child to be free of violence before the rights of the parent.
"What the law is about is protecting babies, children and young people from violence."
Ms Bradford said there were many alternatives to hitting children.
"It's a huge fallacy to think that beating them is helping them. It's hurting and humiliating them."
Dad argues for right to hit son
By SALLY KIDSON - The Nelson Mail | Friday, 07 December 2007
SPARE THE ROD: Rowan Flynn of Nelson is prepared to go to jail to assert his right to smack his four children.
A Nelson father charged with assaulting his son, in one of the region's first prosecutions under a controversial new child discipline law, says he is prepared to go to jail for his right as a parent and a Christian to hit his child.
Rowan Flynn has been charged with two counts of assaulting his 11-year-old son under the new legislation, which came into effect in June and removed a parent's right to use "reasonable force" when discipling a child.
The 52-year-old denied the charges when he appeared in the Nelson District Court this week, and has chosen to have a judge and jury hear the case.
Mr Flynn, who has four children, told the Nelson Mail his son called the police two weeks ago after he hit the boy.
Mr Flynn disputes the police summary of facts. He estimated that he hit his son five times on the bottom with a wooden spoon after he was disobedient, and said it was a "tiny issue" that blew up.
While the police visited him at home to talk to him, they did not take any action at that stage, he said.
"But I made it quite clear to the cop that if it was needed again, I would smack."
Mr Flynn said that about a week later, he "clipped" his son around the face.
Several days later, he was at home cooking dinner when the police arrived and he was arrested.
Mr Flynn said he wanted to speak out about his case because he thought he would not have been charged under the old law.
"I believe very strongly in smacking as a form of discipline. I'm a Christian, and believe it's what I've been commanded to do.
"I'm not going to lay down and take it. I'm going to kick and scream to the very end."
He said he only occasionally used the wooden spoon, when his son's behaviour was particularly bad.
He believed that passages in the Bible gave him the right to use the spoon, or "rod".
"Parents must have the right to correct their children and give them a good whack if that's what they need.
"All this law is doing is making criminals out of good parents. I'm not afraid to say `I smack my kids'."
He believed that smacking was effective because it was an immediate form of discipline.
"We have to have it there, because the kids just know they can get away with anything if it isn't there as a punishment.
"I don't beat my kids. I don't thrash them.
"This new law is going to destroy families. It's already started."
Mr Flynn, who is separated from his wife, said his son had been living with him under an informal arrangement until he appeared in court on Tuesday.
Mr Flynn was granted bail but refused to sign the bail bond because of a condition that he not contact his son. He said he was handcuffed, searched and spent several hours in a holding cell before being released. He intends to appeal the bail condition, and is due back in court on January 18.
Nelson Bays police area commander Inspector Brian McGurk declined to comment on the prosecution, other than to say it had always been illegal for a parent to assault a child.
A 33-year-old Masterton man recently became the first parent convicted under the new legislation. Last month, he was sentenced to nine months' supervision and counselling for grabbing his son and smacking him three times.
Green MP Sue Bradford, who campaigned for the legislation, said the law had changed to put the rights of a child to be free of violence before the rights of the parent.
"What the law is about is protecting babies, children and young people from violence."
Ms Bradford said there were many alternatives to hitting children.
"It's a huge fallacy to think that beating them is helping them. It's hurting and humiliating them."
Wednesday, 5 December 2007
FI - 323
5 December 2007 - Family Integrity #323 -- U4L, More events, Two hard working teams
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Wednesday, December 05, 2007 4:57 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L, More events, Two hard working teams
Hi All,
Urgent, Urgent, Urgent.
Signature call up, if you have any stray signatures sitting around the house could you please send them in. We will even accept signature bombs, thats 500 plus. There is a wonderful opportunity at hand, a public announcement 250,000 signatures before Christmas, YES thats a whole quarter of a million signatures, will make a good headline.
Post to C/O Larry Baldock
P O Box 9228
Greerton
Tuaranga
Encouraging news,
Just been speaking to Lynne from North Shore, the small team there are planning to work their table again, time and date to be confirmed. For those who are unaware, Lynne has a huge pre Christmas workload and certain commitments she has to meet. Truth is, Lynne really did not have the time to commit to the November challenge, however she placed her hand to the plow and their team has been rewarded with the busiest roadside table of the challenge. Well Done.
More Events this Weekend from two very hard working teams.
Here are some more events this weekend, we also encourage coordinators to use http://christiannews.co.nz/Forum/ to help advertise events. This gives you the opportunity to update and delete as required.
On this note we also encourage all recipients to use this site for updated local event information.
From Stephen and Angela
The Hawkes Bay team would appreciate volunteers for Sat 8th Dec Waipukurau Christmas Parade, 9 - 2pm, Central Hawkes Bay.
Contact hawkesbay@unityforliberty.net.nz
From Wayne
Hi Craig. We have got coming up 'Carols in the Park' at Harcourt Park in Upper Hutt, 7 -9pm.
Contact lowerhutt@unityforliberty.net.nz
Thanks for all your efforts,
Craig Hill
PS I have just finished night shift and take no responsibility for creative speling errirs, chEErs!!!!
mob 21746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Wednesday, December 05, 2007 4:57 PM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L, More events, Two hard working teams
Hi All,
Urgent, Urgent, Urgent.
Signature call up, if you have any stray signatures sitting around the house could you please send them in. We will even accept signature bombs, thats 500 plus. There is a wonderful opportunity at hand, a public announcement 250,000 signatures before Christmas, YES thats a whole quarter of a million signatures, will make a good headline.
Post to C/O Larry Baldock
P O Box 9228
Greerton
Tuaranga
Encouraging news,
Just been speaking to Lynne from North Shore, the small team there are planning to work their table again, time and date to be confirmed. For those who are unaware, Lynne has a huge pre Christmas workload and certain commitments she has to meet. Truth is, Lynne really did not have the time to commit to the November challenge, however she placed her hand to the plow and their team has been rewarded with the busiest roadside table of the challenge. Well Done.
More Events this Weekend from two very hard working teams.
Here are some more events this weekend, we also encourage coordinators to use http://christiannews.co.nz/Forum/ to help advertise events. This gives you the opportunity to update and delete as required.
On this note we also encourage all recipients to use this site for updated local event information.
From Stephen and Angela
The Hawkes Bay team would appreciate volunteers for Sat 8th Dec Waipukurau Christmas Parade, 9 - 2pm, Central Hawkes Bay.
Contact hawkesbay@unityforliberty.net.nz
From Wayne
Hi Craig. We have got coming up 'Carols in the Park' at Harcourt Park in Upper Hutt, 7 -9pm.
Contact lowerhutt@unityforliberty.net.nz
Thanks for all your efforts,
Craig Hill
PS I have just finished night shift and take no responsibility for creative speling errirs, chEErs!!!!
mob 21746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Tuesday, 4 December 2007
Media
MEDIA RELEASE
4 December 2007
It’s OK to Smack – American College of Pediatricians
The American College of Pediatricians (ACP), a national medical association of licensed physicians and healthcare professionals who specialise in the care of infants, children, and adolescents has released a position statement on the smacking of children.
“This research backs up the argument put forward by Family First and other pro-family groups against Sue Bradford’s anti-smacking law,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First.
“The ACP reviewed the available research on corporal punishment and concluded that disciplinary smacking by parents can be effective when properly used. They say that the evidence suggests that it can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan when not relied upon solely to control their child’s behaviour.”
“They say that smacking is most appropriate with children 2 to 6 years old, and when milder types of correction have failed.”
The ACP has published a one page handout for parents titled “Guidelines for Parental Use of Disciplinary Spanking.” This can be viewed here:
http://www.acpeds.org/index.cgi?BISKIT=1607656558&CONTEXT=cat&cat=10040
They have also published an extensive review of the scientific literature on smacking.
Family First is welcoming this balanced, objective and thorough research on the issue of smacking by professionals.
“It flies in the face of the blind ideology peddled by the UN, politicians, Children’s Commissioner, and child welfare agencies who have failed to identify and deal with the real causes of child abuse,” says Mr McCoskrie.
Family First continues to call on both the government and other political parties to change the current law on smacking so that parents who use the types of smacking recommended by the ACP are not committing a criminal act, and not be at the mercy of police discretion or unwarranted CYF investigation.
ENDS
For More Information and Media Interviews, contact Family First:
Bob McCoskrie JP - NATIONAL DIRECTOR
Tel. 09 261 2426 | Mob. 027 55 555 42
4 December 2007
It’s OK to Smack – American College of Pediatricians
The American College of Pediatricians (ACP), a national medical association of licensed physicians and healthcare professionals who specialise in the care of infants, children, and adolescents has released a position statement on the smacking of children.
“This research backs up the argument put forward by Family First and other pro-family groups against Sue Bradford’s anti-smacking law,” says Bob McCoskrie, National Director of Family First.
“The ACP reviewed the available research on corporal punishment and concluded that disciplinary smacking by parents can be effective when properly used. They say that the evidence suggests that it can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan when not relied upon solely to control their child’s behaviour.”
“They say that smacking is most appropriate with children 2 to 6 years old, and when milder types of correction have failed.”
The ACP has published a one page handout for parents titled “Guidelines for Parental Use of Disciplinary Spanking.” This can be viewed here:
http://www.acpeds.org/index.cgi?BISKIT=1607656558&CONTEXT=cat&cat=10040
They have also published an extensive review of the scientific literature on smacking.
Family First is welcoming this balanced, objective and thorough research on the issue of smacking by professionals.
“It flies in the face of the blind ideology peddled by the UN, politicians, Children’s Commissioner, and child welfare agencies who have failed to identify and deal with the real causes of child abuse,” says Mr McCoskrie.
Family First continues to call on both the government and other political parties to change the current law on smacking so that parents who use the types of smacking recommended by the ACP are not committing a criminal act, and not be at the mercy of police discretion or unwarranted CYF investigation.
ENDS
For More Information and Media Interviews, contact Family First:
Bob McCoskrie JP - NATIONAL DIRECTOR
Tel. 09 261 2426 | Mob. 027 55 555 42
FI - 322
3 December 2007 - Family Integrity #322 -- U4L; November Review & Upcoming Events
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Monday, December 03, 2007 10:57 AM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; November Review
Hi All,
A quick review of The Great New Zealand Table Challenge.
November started a little slow but then came home with a rush, the last two weeks tallied at 13,400 which gives us a recorded total for the month at 16,383. This total does not include others who are not on our list and those folk who have taken cards for family and friends to sign.
My November estimate tallies over 20,000 signatures. Not bad.
Can the South Island get blood out of a stone? Answer YES.
Here it is. Well done, you're leading the way. Per capita you must be well in front, congratulations from the North. Enough said, that hurt so let's move on.
The change in comments from around the country have been very encouraging, many of these are now "We can do this, We are now in the home straight and It's only 65,000 to go". We still need to place our hands to the plow, the difference is that we now know the grand total is achievable.
I give a big thankyou to all who have helped through the month of November, it is your efforts that make writing this email such a pleasure.
From a very humbled servant,
Craig Hill
021746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Upcoming Events
Hi All,
Announcement, Check out our new signature thermometer here http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/.
Action Alert for the Week.
Auckland (Please let me know of your availability, helps with planning, times to be confirmed)
Wednesday Night - Old Papatoetoe Christmas Parade
Thursday Night - Mangere Christmas Parade
Friaday Night - Papakura Carols in the Park
- Pukekohe Christmas Parade
Saturday -Te Kawahata A&P Show
- Christmas in the Park (AUCKLAND)
- Papakura Christmas Parade
- Papakura Movie in the Park
- Manurewa Christmas in the Park
Contact Craig on 021746113 or craig@unityforliberty.net.nz
Southland
Gore with Daniel tomorrow,
Lawrence Thusday
Dunedin Friday or Saturday in the Mall.
contact Natalie catlins@unityforliberty.net.nz
More events for this weekend with be coming out soon.
Future initiative,
Unity for Liberty will be releasing a click it, sign it, send it email. When you receive it please forward to others.
thanks,
Craig
021746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
-----Original Message-----
From: Craig Hill [mailto:craighill@maxnet.co.nz]
Sent: Monday, December 03, 2007 10:57 AM
To: Craig
Subject: U4L; November Review
Hi All,
A quick review of The Great New Zealand Table Challenge.
November started a little slow but then came home with a rush, the last two weeks tallied at 13,400 which gives us a recorded total for the month at 16,383. This total does not include others who are not on our list and those folk who have taken cards for family and friends to sign.
My November estimate tallies over 20,000 signatures. Not bad.
Can the South Island get blood out of a stone? Answer YES.
Here it is. Well done, you're leading the way. Per capita you must be well in front, congratulations from the North. Enough said, that hurt so let's move on.
The change in comments from around the country have been very encouraging, many of these are now "We can do this, We are now in the home straight and It's only 65,000 to go". We still need to place our hands to the plow, the difference is that we now know the grand total is achievable.
I give a big thankyou to all who have helped through the month of November, it is your efforts that make writing this email such a pleasure.
From a very humbled servant,
Craig Hill
021746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Upcoming Events
Hi All,
Announcement, Check out our new signature thermometer here http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz/.
Action Alert for the Week.
Auckland (Please let me know of your availability, helps with planning, times to be confirmed)
Wednesday Night - Old Papatoetoe Christmas Parade
Thursday Night - Mangere Christmas Parade
Friaday Night - Papakura Carols in the Park
- Pukekohe Christmas Parade
Saturday -Te Kawahata A&P Show
- Christmas in the Park (AUCKLAND)
- Papakura Christmas Parade
- Papakura Movie in the Park
- Manurewa Christmas in the Park
Contact Craig on 021746113 or craig@unityforliberty.net.nz
Southland
Gore with Daniel tomorrow,
Lawrence Thusday
Dunedin Friday or Saturday in the Mall.
contact Natalie catlins@unityforliberty.net.nz
More events for this weekend with be coming out soon.
Future initiative,
Unity for Liberty will be releasing a click it, sign it, send it email. When you receive it please forward to others.
thanks,
Craig
021746113
http://www.unityforliberty.net.nz
All that is necessary for evil to succeed is for good men to do nothing" (Edmund Burke 1729-1797)
Media
It's Okay for Parents to Spank
MEDIA ADVISORY, Dec. 3 /Christian Newswire/ -- The American College of Pediatricians carefully reviewed the available research on corporal punishment and concludes, in its position statement on the subject, that disciplinary spanking by parents can be effective when properly used. "It is clear that parents should not solely rely upon disciplinary spanking to accomplish control of their child's behavior. Evidence suggests that it can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan," notes the just-released position statement.
"When a child defies a parent's instruction, spanking is one of a few options parents can consider to correct the misbehavior," says Den Trumbull, MD, FCP, principal author of the statement. "Spanking is most appropriate with children 2 to 6 years old, and when milder types of correction have failed."
The complete policy and position statements with guidelines can be found at http://www.ACPeds.org
The American College of Pediatricians is a national medical association of licensed physicians and healthcare professionals who specialize in the care of infants, children, and adolescents. The mission of the College is "to enable all children to reach their optimal, physical and emotional health and well- being." We promote "a society where all children from the moment of their conception are valued unselfishly." The College further notes, "that children are the future of our nation and society."
MEDIA ADVISORY, Dec. 3 /Christian Newswire/ -- The American College of Pediatricians carefully reviewed the available research on corporal punishment and concludes, in its position statement on the subject, that disciplinary spanking by parents can be effective when properly used. "It is clear that parents should not solely rely upon disciplinary spanking to accomplish control of their child's behavior. Evidence suggests that it can be a useful and necessary part of a successful disciplinary plan," notes the just-released position statement.
"When a child defies a parent's instruction, spanking is one of a few options parents can consider to correct the misbehavior," says Den Trumbull, MD, FCP, principal author of the statement. "Spanking is most appropriate with children 2 to 6 years old, and when milder types of correction have failed."
The complete policy and position statements with guidelines can be found at http://www.ACPeds.org
The American College of Pediatricians is a national medical association of licensed physicians and healthcare professionals who specialize in the care of infants, children, and adolescents. The mission of the College is "to enable all children to reach their optimal, physical and emotional health and well- being." We promote "a society where all children from the moment of their conception are valued unselfishly." The College further notes, "that children are the future of our nation and society."
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